The Aspie Girl's Guide to Being Safe with Men
The Unwritten Safety Rules No-one is Telling You
By Debi Brown
Jessica Kingsley Publishers
Paperback / 176 Pages
Aspie girls and women are incredibly vulnerable to having bad sexual experiences with men, whether or not they are interested in pursuing dating and sexual relationships. This may be partly because, as teenagers, Aspie girls are often not part of the social groups where their non-spectrum peers learn the 'rules' that are vital to their physical and emotional safety in society. Debi Brown has written this important book to fill the resulting knowledge gap - how to interact safely with men - to help other Aspie girls and women avoid common pitfalls and potentially dangerous situations.
This is essential reading for every girl and woman on the autism spectrum, from age 13 upwards. Appreciating that Aspies need explanations to be explicit and comprehensive, Debi Brown provides sound, practical strategies for staying safe in many different situations, sensitively yet honestly explaining what the Aspie's rights and choices are, and how to act on her choices to stay safe. Clear, unambiguous advice is given on abstract issues, including the importance of boundaries and how to recognise and report inappropriate or abusive behaviour. Strategies for improving self-esteem and for overcoming and healing from negative experiences are also included.
This must-read guide for the first time spells out the unwritten safety rules around dating, relationships and sex, and will inform and empower Aspie girls and women to live full and independent lives while staying safe. It will also be a source of valuable insights and advice for the parents, professionals and anyone else involved in loving and supporting these girls and women.